Add whitelist to jsx-no-lambda

[mitchlloyd]

To address remaining conversation in #26.

This can be considered a breaking change since users that do not change their config will see new linting errors for anonymous functions in ref props. One way to resolve this is to put ref in the whitelist by default if no whitelist options are provided.

[palantirtech]

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[adidahiya]

Closing due to inactivity and age. See #210